Few of us are taught that secure relationships are built on 1/3 peaceful good times, 1/3 ruptures and 1/3 repair work. Without repairs, our relationships become damaged and distance grows. When we are repairing regularly with each other, we are able to heal with each other and grow closer over time.

Each Telegram is designed to build closeness, amplify healing at home and grow fresh positive connections between family members.  Sharing our inner experiences can feel so risky and so can hearing the truth (especially when the truth is hard to hear). Writing a telegram makes it easier to communicate in a productive way and receiving one makes it easier to slow down and truly hear what is being shared.

Families can learn to communicate in constructive and rewarding ways without a therapist by their side using Special Delivery Telegrams!


Clean Up 

FOR FAMILIES and FRIENDS

This telegram helps families recover from hard moments and helps to heal wounds and hurts that so naturally happen between family mem- bers. The more we can embrace “cleaning up” our messes with each other along the way, the more we can deepen the safety and love we feel with each other.


Find the Good

This telegram invites you to go on a hunt for what’s working around you and share what you notice. You can offer “feel-good” fuel to the people around you by just appreciating them directly and with details! The effect on the receiver is immediate: A low mood suddenly lifts...A crummy day gets brighter...Self-doubt turns to con- fidence. And surprise! It’s not just the receiver of the telegram who gets fueled, the sender gets a feel-good boost too. So be brave—find the GOOD around you and share what you find! You can change someone’s life for the better right now with one telegram. 


Making Repairs

This telegram walks you through the steps to clean up a relational mis-step so that intimate partnerships can endure and deepen after the natural and expectable ruptures occur.


Gratitude

HIGH OCTANE FUEL FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Use it to train your brain to scan for what’s working with the people you care about. The actual experience of doing the telegram can immediately change your brain chemistry and get you more balanced in your perspective of someone you love and care about. These telegrams also function as instant nourishment for a strained connection.


Difficult Feelings (ages 8 - 98)

FOR PARTNERS, FAMILIES & SCHOOLS

  • To help you understand what’s happening on the inside.
  • To help you learn about what you need when you are struggling.
  • To help you be brave to communicate your feelings and needs to those who love you.

It can be such a puzzle to figure out what we are feeling inside or to communicate about a hard moment. When we practice identifying difficult feelings and staying with them a little bit at a time, we feel better.


Difficult Experiences (Ages 5-12)

FOR FAMILIES & SCHOOLS

It can be such a puzzle to figure out what we are feeling inside or to communicate about a hard moment. When we practice identifying difficult feelings and staying with them a little bit at a time, we feel better. This Telegram helps parents and teachers guide kids in identifying what difficult feelings are happening for them on the INSIDE.

  • To help you understand what’s happening on the inside.
  • To help you learn about what you need when you are struggling.
  • To help you be brave to communicate your feelings and needs to those who love you.

Anxiety / Stormy Moments

For anyone who wants to understand his/her own unique anxiety, or moments of panic. This telegram helps the user study their experience, feel relief, and communicate with family members or therapists about what he/she is discovering.

This telegram is meant to be used by yourself or between a caregiver and child of any age. We designed this telegram to help you understand how anxiety shows up in you, what triggers the anxiety, and what tools you identify with and can learn to use in your daily life. Completing these telegrams will help you under- stand and communicate about how anxiety affects you so you can feel more supported and empowered.