Feel & Deal Telegrams
The Lab Method’s Feel & Deal Telegrams help families constructively communicate about complicated feelings and experiences without a therapist by their side. If you’re “stuck” with your child and don’t know how to re-connect, a Telegram is a go-to letter template that will help loosen the emotional log jam and create meaningful, deeper connections.
Writing a Telegram makes it easier to slow down, share inner experiences, and receiving one allows time for reflection and understanding. Kids and parents can use them to “talk” about hard stuff when hard stuff becomes too hard to actually talk about.
CLEANING UP MESSES BETWEEN PEOPLE
These Telegrams helps families recover from hard moments and helps to heal wounds and hurts that so naturally happen between family members. The more we can embrace “cleaning up” our messes with each other along the way, the more we can deepen the safety and love we feel with each other.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT FEELINGS
To help you understand what’s happening on the inside. To help you learn about what you need when you are struggling. To help you be brave to communicate your feelings and needs to those who love you.
COPING WITH A DIFFICULT EXPERIENCE
It can be such a puzzle to figure out what we are feeling inside or to communicate about a hard moment. When we practice identifying difficult feelings and staying with them a little bit at a time, we feel better. This Telegram helps parents and teachers guide kids to identify what difficult feelings are happening for them on the INSIDE.
DEALING WITH ANXIETY
For anyone who wants to understand his/her own unique anxiety, or moments of panic. This telegram helps the user study their experience, feel relief, and communicate with family members or therapists about what he/she is discovering.
This telegram is meant to be used by yourself or between a caregiver and child of any age.
FINDING THE GOOD TELEGRAM (50 pages)
This telegram invites you to go on a hunt for what’s working around you and share what you notice. You can offer “feel-good” fuel to the people around you by just appreciating them directly and with details! The effect on the receiver is immediate: A low mood suddenly lifts...A crummy day gets brighter...Self doubt turns to confidence. And surprise! It’s not just the receiver of the telegram who gets fueled, the sender gets a feel-good boost too. So do something new - find the GOOD around you and share what you find! You can fill someone’s tank right now with one telegram.
MAKING REPAIRS TELEGRAM (50 pages FOR ADULTS)
This telegram walks you through the steps to clean up a relational misstep so that intimate partnerships can endure and deepen after the natural and expectable ruptures occur. Ruptures left untended are known to go ‘underground’ popping up later as resentment and emotional distance. Protect and preserve your relationship by cleaning up with your partner whenever you sense something has gotten off track.
GRATITUDE TELEGRAM Pad (50 pages for partners and family)
HIGH OCTANE FUEL FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
Use it to train your brain to scan for what’s working with the person you care about. The actual experience of completing the telegram can immediately change how you feel about your partner and instantly help you notice all that your partner brings to the table when you may have overlooked them. These telegrams also function as an instant salve for a strained or brittle connection and a wondrous boost for an already connected couple. So take the time…So fill one out and leave it in a surprise location for your sweetheart to find and be fueled by.