Polly encourages parents to leave behind shame-based, “power-over", fear-centric, authoritarian ways of relating in favor of those based on truthfulness, vulnerability, mutual accountability and gentle, respectful leadership.

With a focus on building secure attachments among family members, Polly's compassionate, moving, and humorous approach leaves parents and partners with the practical tools they need to build deep and rewarding relationships. 


UPCOMING EVENTS


THe Lunchtime Lab SERIES

Monday afternoons this fall.


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Relaxed Leadership:

How to lead peacefully without shaming, blaming, bribing, or blowing your top

My kids won't listen! ... I am exhausted by their demands... How can I show them who is in charge without screaming at them or taking everything away? 

Start the school year relaxed AND in-charge rather than tense and struggling for power. This two-part class is a magic elixir for parents who want to learn how to 'hold the reins' and get back in the driver's seat peacefully.  

  • Part #1 Monday, September 24. 12pm - 2pm
  • Part #2 Monday, October 1. 12pm - 2pm
  • 90 min teaching followed by 30 min of Q&A (Bring your puzzling situations into the room as you wish to so everyone can benefit from the answers)
  • $180 for both classes (4 hours of instruction)

For parents of kids from 3 to 12 years old.

(Limited to 25 participants. Bring your lunch.)

Location: Hope & Wellness Center  / 200 Tamal Plaza, Suite 130 / Corte Madera, CA


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Holy Shift!

Finding Your Cool When You've Lost It

This series is for parents and partners who who want to practice what they preach, enjoy their parenting more, and lose their cool LESS. We'll go in-depth on how to regulate your own emotional reactivity, offering you tools and strategies to help you be a grounded, safe, and relaxed leader, partner, and person. 

  • 6 Mondays this fall:
    • 10/22: Soothing and Diffusing Anger Immediately
    • 11/5: Feeling & Dealing vs. Feeling & Reeling
    • 11/26: How and What to Communicate Before you Blow your Top
    • 12/3: Managing Overwhelm and Saying no Without Guilt
    • 12/10: The Life Saving Magic of Boundary Setting: Internal & External Boundaries
    • 12/17: After the Blow up: Undoing Shame & Repairing in Meaningful Ways
  • 12:00 pm - 1:30 pm
  • $540 for the series
  • For ANY parent, person or partner
  • Location: Hope & Wellness Center  / 200 Tamal Plaza, Suite 130 / Corte Madera, CA

(Limited to 25 participants. Bring your lunch.)

 


This series created the “holiest” of shifts in me. It was life-changing not just for me but for my family. The benefits from what what I learned just keep coming.” -Kathryn S. (Larkspur mom of 3)

”I wish everyone I know and love could take this class. It should be mandatory training for every parent and partner.
— Lisa M., Sausalito

PREVIOUS EVENTS


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THE Sibling LAB: Transforming rivalry to revelry

What can I do to promote a strong bond between my kids? Their fighting creates so much tension and upset at home. What can I do to help their relationship thrive? How can I help them build a safe connection? What is my role when they are fighting? Why are they constantly AT each other? Polly will answer these questions in the Sibling LAB and show you a productive road to cultivating a peaceful home.


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Parent LAB - Relaxed Leadership

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How to Lean Out AND Take the Reins at the Same Time. Feel like you are an employee? Or a hostage at times? Are you working overtime to satisfy your child? Constantly orbiting them to optimize their happiness? Are you exhausted by one power struggle after another? Find out how to right the ship gently and quickly for a much more easeful parent-child dynamic and an enduring secure bond between parents and kids.


Lean Out Leadership LAB:

Learn the miraculous skill of leading kids WHILE relaxed!  Anyone can learn how to steer the family ship without using "power-over" tactics (such as yelling, threatening, shaming) This LAB is a game changer for parents who are feeling exhausted by the game.


TEEN LAB: The Big Pivot: What's my Role now that my kid is no longer really a kid?

What am I supposed to be teaching them? How much help is too much help?  How do I create an alliance with my teen so they feel that I am rooting for them rather than saving them?


Emotions and Anxiety LAB: What “to do” about your kid’s emotions that could save your life and theirs

If you have a sensitive child, an anxious child or a reactive child that “doesn’t want to talk about” their stormy moods, then this is the LAB for you. Find out how you can navigate feelings to prevent depression, chronic anxiety and addiction.


 Contact Ross Valley Nursery School for details.

Contact Ross Valley Nursery School for details.

Parent LAB: Getting Unstuck with Little Ones

Leadership that Feels Relaxing for the Leader and Safe for the Follower. The tips and tricks that Polly teaches are not just life saving they are massively stress-reducing and are immediately effective. Most of all, Polly’s methods completely change the dynamic between parents and kids so that you feel whole and preserved at the end of a tough day, rather than threaded and shredded by the parent experience.


Online Safety: Relationships & Devices

How do we create agreements around technology that aren’t punitive and divisive? What are the boundaries and how do we talk about them so doors aren’t constantly slamming and devices aren’t being angrily yanked away? How do I keep my kid as safe as possible? Find out in this 90 min Tech LAB.


THE DAD LAB

"What do my kids need more than anything else from me? Is there anything I can communicate to them today that will completely change the course of their lives? Why is my wife so grouchy with me?"

Dads, this LAB is where you can learn powerful information about how to connect with your kids, ask anything, and get answers that may change your kids' life as well as your own. 


The ATTACHMENT LAB:

A Natural Approach to Soothing An Anxious Child

No one ever played with me as a kid and now I don’t really know how to hangout/play with my kid. My child seems desperate for attention! How much time do I really need to give him/her to build an amazing relationship and an independent kid?  Why is my child acting out? What can I do to help them feel more settled inside and seek attention in more productive ways?  My kid is clingy and anxious. Is there something I can offer that might help them relax and grow secure? Is there anything I can do TODAY with my kids to prevent a nightmare later? Yes.

Find out the very simple concrete things you can do to raise a secure person and grow a lasting sturdy bond with your kids.


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Parent LAB: Relaxed Leadership

Learn how to lean back and trust yourself as a Leader (even when the wheels are falling off the bus!)

Stress and stuck-ness, while embedded in the very fabric of life with kids, does not have to render you tense, exhausted or reactive. Polly sprinkles breadcrumbs in the form of practical tips to get you out of the parenting moments that can leave you feeling lost or at your wits end. Her simple scripts and relaxed guidance empowers parents to lead without blaming, shaming, bribing, threatening or blowing their top.


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THE House That Tech Built: STAYING ATTACHED WITH TECH ALL AROUND

Technology doesn't have to divide you and your kids. It can actually bring you closer. Learn how to cultivate trust and raise accountability around screen-time at home while building closeness. Learn how to design some clear boundaries around phone time that serves your relationship and are easy to implement. 


Tech LAB: Connecting to your Values, Boundaries & Agreements before connecting to devices

How much tech is too much? How do I protect them from harm? How do I protect our relationship? What will our agreements be around technology? How do we maintain them as parents? My kid is so preoccupied with getting a show or playing a game on my phone. How do I set up a life that isn’t a constant negotiation around tech use?


Holy Shift! The Magic & Science of Finding Your Cool when you've lost it

This series is for parents who want to practice what they preach, enjoy their parenting more, and lose their cool LESS. we'll go in-depth on how to regulate your own big emotions and reactivity, offering you tools and strategies to help you be a grounded, safe, and relaxed leader.

  • Soothing and Diffusing Anger Immediately
  • Detecting Overwhelm & Finding Ground
  • Communicating in Tense Moments
  • Low Intensity Leadership: Getting them to listen without getting LOUD
  • The Post Anger Fall-Out: Reflecting and repairing 
  • The Art of Self Care: Taking off your "parent hat" (and feeling good about it) 

Holy Shift! FAQ:

Q: What will the class format be?

A: In each 90 min session, Polly will teach for 30 min, we will study our own recent reactivity for 30 min and we will close with 30 min of group Q&A/discussion to help the learning be as relevant and real as possible for each participant. 

Q: If I already took the Holy Shift Series, can I take it again?

A: Yes. This series will be different than the first one and you will be different too when you take it again. Transforming reactivity takes time. The more lasting attention you give it, the bigger the change.

Q: What can I bring into the event?

A: Yourself. Your Lunch. Your notepad. 

Q: Do I have to talk/share in the sessions?

A: It's your choice whether you participate quietly or talk. You decide from week to week what feels right to you.

Q: Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?

A: No :) We will have a record of your registration.

Q: Is it ok if the name on my ticket or registration doesn't match the person who attends?

A: The name of the person who registers has to match the person who shows up. Tickets are not transferrable.

Q: Can I register my partner for this?

A: You can tell him/her about it but participants must register themselves.

Q: Can I take only part of the Holy Shift Series?

A: Participants must register for the whole series but can skip any classes if need be.

Q: Is this a Parenting Class?

A: Not really. It's a class about reactivity which shows up for LOTS of parents and partners. It's a path to learning to DEAL with overwhelm and with surges of feeling without lashing out at others or imploding on yourself.

Q: My kid is always melting down and freaking out. Shouldn't HE just learn how to calm down?

Emotional regulation is a family affair. Our kids will only learn how to steady themselves in a deep and lasting way if parents are actively practicing the same. Emotional regulation is learned by PARENT example. 

Q: I feel like I give everything to my kids and they don't listen to me until I blow up at them. In a way, yelling sort of works. Do I need to change?

Chronic blow-ups at home take a toll on your health, your kids' nervous system, and your future relationship with them. Teach your kids how to get through difficult emotions by practicing it in your difficult moments.

Q: Sometimes it seems like I am losing my sh** out of nowhere. I feel so guilty afterwards. I swore I would never do to my kids what my parents did to me, blow up and then never talk about it again, and now I am. Yuck.

If you had reactive parents, learning another way to be upset without being destructive to yourself or the people you love is the biggest gift you can give your family. The second biggest gift is learning how to talk about a blow-up after it happens.

Q: I don't really scream and yell but I do feel tense, anxious and impatient. I seethe inside, sometimes giving the cold shoulder to my family for days. It's sad and exhausting for me. Does this series apply to me?

Yes. Our kids are just as affected by our chilly stance as you are. It's exhausting and anxiety provoking for everyone when someone is mad but isn't talking about it.