Host Your Own LAB
Contact Polly if you would like to organize a private or large group workshop (also known as a LAB) in your community or home with Polly as your Lead Facilitator. Polly’s workshops are generally 1.5-2 hours. Half-day, full day and multi-day LABs can be arranged with anyone who would like to co-host one.
For private small groups (2 hour LAB): $900 for up to 10 people and $75 per additional person after the first 10. For $1500, you can invite up to 25 people. (If the location is outside of Marin county additional travel fees will be applied.) Groups of 4-50 people can be accommodated easily in our space as well. Please email Polly to discuss at firstname.lastname@example.org. Private LABs can be held in a location of your choice or we can provide a group meeting space.
For Organizations & Schools: $2,000 for each 2 hour LAB. If multiple LABs are scheduled by a single school/organization, the price goes down to $1800 per LAB for 2 LABS and $1600 per LAB for 3 or more LABs provided the LABs are booked within the same school year. Schools and organizations are welcome to partner with each other to co-host a LAB.
HOLY SHIFT! FINDING YOUR COOL WHEN YOU'VE LOST IT (the parent emotion regulation LAB)
How can you keep a cool head and a warm heart when the wheels are falling off the bu or someone is pushing all your buttons? If emotions or rage seem to take you over, don’t miss this tools-based workshop to give you something else to do besides yell, bribe, threaten, or completely lose your cool.
GETTING ON THE SAME PAGE: For parents who want to flow together and operate as a team)
This is the workshop for both parents that helps you and your partner bridge the gap between what happens when kids are misbehaving and how you present a unified front that handles messy situations in a cohesive and consistent way. Iron out the wrinkles around parenting that you just haven't had time to iron out in this 90 minute intensive. How will we discipline? How do we help each other when one of us is losing our cool? How do we offer each other advice about parenting that keeps each of us whole and feeling respected? What will be our strategy for preserving our partnership so that we have a satisfying romantic partnership and a solid?
THE Peaceful FAMILY:
Bonding joyfully as a family is something many of us long for but figuring out HOW to create a secure, connected family life with parents who lead and kids who follow,can seem wildly challenging in the demanding world we live in.
Polly Ely, MFT, Founder of The LAB Method and Author of “What Can I Say? A New Kind of Talk For Parenting in Tough Moments”, offers parents 10 easy principles and practices to build a relaxed and peaceful family. In this LAB, we will learn how to recognize and let go of divisive practices at home and replace them with rock solid, emotionally safe, honest relating skills that securely bond the whole family together.
*BTW: Kids who feel proud and connected to their families are FAR less susceptible to all kinds of negative peer influences, more emotionally sturdy throughout their lifetime, and much more resilient when their life delivers it’s inevitable knocks.*
THE BIG PIVOT: SHIFTING GEARS FROM MANAGING KIDS TO LEADING ADOLESCENTS
If you feel like you can't get through to your teen or the reception between you is fuzzy, come to this Teen LAB for a major infusion of inspiration and practical tools to clear up the connection and re-set the boundaries and expectations.
What am I supposed to be teaching them? How much help is too much help? How do I create an alliance with my teen so they feel that I am rooting for them rather than saving them and helping them learn rather than nagging at them?
*Any Teen LAB can include a special segment on teens & screens: transform the sticky moments around technology into connecting opportunities between parents & teens.
TEEN LABS: (FOR PARENTS & EDUCATORS OF TEENS AND TWEENS)
10 Jedi Mind Tricks for Getting your Teen's Attention
Improve Your Reception & Build a Clear Connection With Your Teen
Zen & the Art of Teen Maintenance
Being a Calm Captain in the Stormy Seas of Adolescence
THE DAD LAB
This workshop is a game changer.
Dads, your kids are WANTING to build a personal relationship with you. Your shoes can't be filled by anyone else. This workshop will highlight how to take being a Dad to a much deeper level to completely change your kids lives, your life as a father and the future of your family tree. This workshop will also feature a segment on partnering and how to partner in the most soothing and rewarding way with your spouse. (Sorry Moms, this is a Dads-only event.)
CHORES, MANNERS AND ALLOWANCE
Learn to connect, relax and teach when you are tempted to correct, punish and preach. Discover a shame-free, satisfying path to raising polite, pleasant kids who are happy to be helpful ‘cogs in the wheel’ at home.
RELAXED LEADERSHIP: WHAT TO SAY AND HOW TO SAY IT SO THAT YOUR KIDS WANT TO LISTEN TO YOU EVERY TIME YOU SPEAK.
Do you hold the reins so tight that that your kid is always trying to buck you? Are you stuck in constant negotiations? Do you become fearful of losing your power and get reactive? Do you get overwhelmed and give up (becoming overly permissive) when your kid tries to take the reins?
BIG HARD EMOTIONS: TEACHING YOUR KIDS (and yourself) HOW TO EMOTIONALLY SETTLE IN STORMY MOMENTS
When the stormy emotions blow in, learn how to captain the ship and help your child ride out the storm out without hurting the people they love. These simple principles will help reactive kids settle quicker, feel supported and help confused parents hold down the fort while the stormy child blows through. Plus learn how to use feelings for healing yourself and your kids.
THE SIBLING LAB: TURN RIVALRY INTO REVERIE, FIGHTING INTO DELIGHTING & TEASING INTO PLEASING
This workshop offers powerful transformative practices that aim to help parents lead their kids towards becoming a team. Here is the straight talk and practical guidance to transform relationships between siblings.
Quell worries, sooth big feelings and help your family/kids relax when your kid is feeling stormy, anxious or reactive.
BUILDING A SECURE FAMILY (for families of all types and sizes)
Kids who feel proud and connected to their families are less susceptible to all kinds of negative peer influences and are more thoughtful about their choices in all areas of their life, are more emotionally sturdy throughout their lifetime, and tend to seek out and create healthier more secure relationships from cradle to grave. This workshop will reveal a few simple principles that will bring your family immediately closer and help everyone feel the deep security that grows from being an INTENTIONAL family.
HIERARCHY MATTERS: HOW TO “KEEP HOLD OF THE REINS' AND RELAX AS A PARENT AT THE SAME TIME.
The Art and Magic of Leading Kids Without Breaking a Sweat. The balance between being loving, and being in charge can be struck! What's the secret for keeping your head and staying connected with your kid WHILE you hold firm boundaries in place? Find out how to become at-ease with clear, direct and boundaried leadership in this workshop.
THE MAGIC OF THE COMMUNICATING ABOUT THE HARD STUFF AT HOME OR AT SCHOOL
Learn how to use Polly's Feel & Deal Telegrams to positively transform the culture of your home or school from fearful and defended to real and relieving. Learn how you can meet the deep longing for connection and understanding in your kids and partner even if your people don’t like to talk or are afraid to. Writing down what’s going on can relieve pressure and allow for connections to form where loneliness might exist.
THE ATTACHMENT LAB: GETTING STRONGER, STURDIER AND SAFER TOGETHER
No one ever played with me as a kid and now I don’t really know how to hangout/play with my kid. My child seems desperate for attention! How much time do I really need to give him/her to build an amazing relationship and an independent kid? Why is my child acting out? What can I do to help them feel more settled inside and seek attention in more productive ways? My kid is clingy and anxious. Is there something I can offer that might help them relax and grow secure?
Is there anything I can do TODAY with my kids to prevent a nightmare later? YES. YES. YES.
Find out the very simple concrete things you can do to raise grow sturdy, emotionally secure and confident kids.
BUILDING SECURE ATTACHMENTS AT SCHOOL: FOR TEACHERS AND ADMINISTRATORS
Leadership practices to transform the way you lead and how they follow. If you are stuck in management mode and feeling exhausted by the sound of your own voice, learn some simple practices to reduce anxiety at school and learn to move through difficult moments in a way that transforms your school culture.
THE HOUSE THAT TECH BUILT: STAYING ATTACHED WITH TECH ALL AROUND
Technology doesn't have to divide you and your kids. It can actually bring you closer. Learn how to cultivate trust and raise accountability around screen-time at home while building closeness. Learn how to design some clear boundaries around phone time that serves your relationship and are easy to implement.
TECH TALK LAB
10 revolutionary ways to build amazing connections and teach integrity while using Media, screens and all forms of tech at home.
Create your own "WHAT CAN I SAY?" LAB
Gather a group of friends or community members and bring your real life parent puzzles forward to learn as a group. Polly will infuse the room with a variety of mantras, scripts and transformative solutions bringing a new order to your family’s relationships and the flow of life at home.
COUPLES LAB: Creating the Partnership You Truly Crave & Growing Your Intimate Connection (with kids in the mix)
Don’t let your romantic partnership wither and grow brittle while you are busy tending kids! Growing closer and deepening with each other over time is SO do-able and so many couples accidentally put their connection ‘on hold’ while they raise kids. Beware, partner loneliness grows out of over-focusing on kid care! If your goal is to stay together and grow as you go, this LAB will give you the simple crib notes to cultivating a vibrant, rich and deeply heartfelt intimate life,