My Approach

Looking together at what is blocked or feels "stuck", we can process and heal wounds from the past and work towards understanding your longings and boundaries for today with more clarity.

If you are stuck in frustrating relational patterns that seem to repeat themselves and cause you suffering, then let's look together at what is ready for change in you. My explicit hope is that we will hone your skills towards communicating your needs in a way that supports them to be met consistently.

The natural outcropping of our work will be easier, more honest relationships, greater trust in yourself to make tough decisions, and increased joy, energy and deeper connections in your life. Let's design and create a self-chosen life path marked by an ability to both listen and respond to your own inner directives.

Areas of Specialization

Every person and family deserves compassionate, expert guidance on their path to healing.

Families

I like to imagine myself a warrior fiercely standing guard of each family that I have the privilege to work with. I believe firmly that if more families had a clear minded, caring and protective "other" willing to take a stand for each family member's innate strengths, guide them in slowing down and help them know themselves as a unit of separate yet connected people—then many more families would be able to weather the stormy early years and come out on the other side proud and preserved.

Parent Coaching & Consultation

Building secure attachments with our children today means they will be primed to become secure young adults, and responsive healthy partners and friends one day. My Parent Labs create an interactive vibrant forum to get practical parenting tools & language that help immediate life with your kids become more fluid and easeful. I teach parents how to be leaders to their children without threats, attacks, major ruptures and shaming.

AEDP for Couples

As an affirming guide, we work together to uncover what non-conscious patterns of relating are blocking intimacy and connection for you. We focus on building the attuned, responsive capacities of each partner. Through emotionally focused moment-to-moment tracking of a couple's interactions, I guide your partnership towards developing a secure base, so that each partner can safely incorporate a more aware, loving and compassionate self into your couple life at home.

AEDP for Individuals

AEDP is a healing-oriented treatment modality that is non-pathologizing. AEDP operates from a baseline of trust that every person is innately wired with the emotional health required for a joyful life already built into them. When we feel safe, we let down defensive barriers and when those barriers are down, our innate ability to grow and expand also helps us heal.

Polly Ely

About Polly

Polly received her master's degree from The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California in 2011. Shortly after graduating, she became a devoted practitioner of an experiential form of healing called Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), which she has joined with her own body of work developed just for families to heal together.

The aim of AEDP is to release innate healing tendencies, to follow the positive markers that identify naturally occurring adaptive changes and to harness their potential for healing, all in the context of the therapeutic relationship.

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Location

Tiburon, California

Mailing Address

P.O. Box 685
Tiburon, CA 94920